Relationships at work matter. A good coworker relationship not only makes your days more enjoyable but also makes you better and more productive at your job. Knowing the benefits, how can you build more social connections at the office? Before a team can work together and collaborate effectively, it helps to first know each other. There are a handful of ways we can get past our growing aversion to forging friendships or relationships at work.
No More Excuses
We understand that connecting with others can create a lot emotional discomfort (especially amongst a group of new people). There's the (mostly irrational) fear of rejection. The easiest thing to do is to accept that attempting to create new or deeper connections will make you uncomfortable, the key is to not let it stop you. You know what they say about discomfort, the more you practice tolerating discomfort, the more confidence you'll gain in your ability to accept new challenges. The biggest thing you can do for yourself is to become aware of your defense mechanisms and we all have them– they sound something like these:
I'm just an introvert
I don't like small talk
I prefer to get straight to business
I rather not beat around the bush
You get the picture and chances are, you've said one of these or some version of one of these in your past. Recognize that it's usually just a defense mechanism or avoidant behavior and let yourself push through it. It can be as simple as making eye contact or forcing yourself to say hello.
Like most things in life, it's better to take relationship building slowly and in strides rather than in leaps. Not everyone you meet needs to become your friend, you can let go of that notion right now. Instead, focus your efforts toward developing a relationship or friendship with one or two people at a time. Small steps can make big differences quickly– the difference a tiny improvement can make over time is astounding. Here’s how the math works out: if you can get 1 percent better each day for one year, you’ll end up thirty‐seven times better by the time you’re done. Conversely, if you get 1 percent worse each day for one year, you’ll decline nearly down to zero. What starts as a small win or a minor setback accumulates into something much more.
We all know about ripple effects– think about when you drop a stone into a pond, it starts with one ripple created by the stone itself, then because a second ripple occurs, a third one occurs, and so on. The key to remember is that you need 1 thing to happen in order to produce change immediately after. If you make a connection (the happen) with one person, he or she is likely to talk about you in positive way (the change).
Now, all of a sudden, you've built reputation with other by building it between you and one person– ripple effect. However, don't pick just anyone, instead, pick the coworkers with care. To increase the effect, find colleagues that share values or have things in common. If you want a 2-4x increase from your effort, try and choose people that others also gravitate toward. Don't limit yourself to colleagues only within your department, team, division, or office – going outside your proximity network can offer broader more diverse support.
Big note: Keep your intentions in check. You shouldn't actively build relationships with motive beyond the intention to build relationships that are mutually beneficial and good for you, others, and the organization. In other words, avoid becoming political or manipulative. People will read that and you'll lose any clout you were able to develop.
The Moral of This Post, Ask Questions
We've all been in conversations that feel like they're running out of steam. It's the primary reason we avoid one-on-one conversations in the first place. That awkward silence can kill a vibe real quickly. We all fear running out of things to discuss. However, there's a cure for this and it's simple– curiosity. We all can ask questions and there's nothing like a good icebreaker to break the tension and open up a fun conversation and maybe even learn something about the person you didn't know. Some simple suggestions below (more at the bottom):
Are you working on anything exciting?
How was your weekend?
Have you read anything interesting lately?
When asking a question, the goal is to create a shared psychological space for you both. By asking a question, it shifts the dynamics and makes the conversation less about you and more about creating a shared connection and can extend the conversation well beyond the original question. It's important to remain open, curious, and compassionate. If your default is to ask work-related questions, don't fret, it's a perfectly fine want to develop a relationship.
Most Important, Be Authentic and Realistic
As noted above, if your intentions aren't pure, people will pick up on that quickly and it's hard to make up for that loss. Here is an easy philosophy to follow– when trying to cultivate and develop a relationship, make sure your actions fit two criteria:
Authenticity is critical. The minute you start faking your intentions, people are going to give you less trust, not more. People know when you're looking out for yourself, avoid this behavior completely. Secondly, make sure any commitments you make or stories you share are grounded in reality and something you can manage. Don't make plans for drinks or dinner after work if you know you have plans or lots of after work variability. Too many of these and people will stop trying with you. It's best to first ask yourself: What can I realistically give or do and what am I comfortable asking people for?
Icebreakers In Assembly
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Icebreaker Questions for Work
If you don't like any of the below, use our random question generator at the top of this post to see hundreds more.
Virtual Icebreaker Questions
Do you love working from home or in the office? Is there a balance of both that you like best?
Where do you work most frequently from at home? Your office? Your kitchen table? The backyard? Your bed?
Can you give a tour of your office space?
Be honest, how often do you work from bed?
What does your morning routine look like when working from home?
How many cups of coffee, tea, or beverage-of-choice do you have each morning?
Do you have any pets as in-house colleagues?
Do you have houseplants in your office?
What’s your go-to remote work outfit?
Personal Icebreaker Questions
What animal represents you?
What was your dream profession growing up?
What is something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t done yet?
Do you have any family traditions that you look forward to each year?
Would you like to be famous? In what way?
What’s your dream car?
Who in your life has inspired you most?
If you weren’t in this career, what could you see yourself doing?
What is one thing on the very top of your bucket list?
If you’re not from this city, why did you end up here?
What is your guilty pleasure?
If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
What’s the craziest thing you have ever done?
If you had a million dollars, what would be the first thing you bought?
What’s your favorite thing about your job?
What’s something you are really proud of accomplishing?
What’s something interesting about your family history?
When you’re not at work, what are your passions?
Do you have siblings? How many? Where do you fit in the mix?
What’s your biggest fear?
What’s your secret talent?
Who’s the most famous person you’ve ever met?
What’s your favorite hobby?
What clubs were you a member of in high school?
Do you speak any languages besides English? Is there a reason you learned it?
What’s your favorite childhood memory?
What is your biggest pet peeve?
Name three things you and your partner have in common.
What’s your most treasured memory?
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
If you could pick up a new skill in an instant what would it be?
What would you like to be known or remembered for?
What would your dream house be like?
What sport would you compete in if you were in the Olympics?
Do you collect anything?
If you could instantly become an expert in something, what would it be?
Who’s someone you really admire?
What’s your favorite quote?
What’s your favorite board game?
What’s something you love that people wouldn’t expect?
What fictional family would you be a member of?
What was the worst job you ever had?
If you could change places with anyone in the world, who would it be and why?
If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be and why?
If you had to teach a class on one thing, what would you teach?
If you could magically become fluent in any language, what would it be?
Are you a morning person or a night person?
Sweet or savory?
Did you ever have an imaginary friend? If so, what was its name?
What was your least favorite food as a child? Do you still hate it or do you love it now?
If you were forced to sing karaoke, what song would you choose and why?
What was your least favorite childhood chore and why?
What’s your caffeinated beverage of choice? Coffee? Cola? Tea?
What’s your favorite scent?
What was the last thing you gave 100% to?
If you could say one thing to the entire world right now, what would you say?
Do you care about your astrological sign?
What’s the last thing you got in “trouble” for?
Music, Movie, and Book-Related Icebreaker Questions
Do you have a favorite song to listen to when you need your spirits lifted?
What is the most feel-good film you’ve ever seen?
What type of music do you prefer?
What’s your favorite TV show and why?
Have you ever been in a movie, TV show, or play? What was your role?
If you could hang out with any cartoon character, who would you choose and why?
If you could be in any movie, what would it be and what character would you play?
Which actor would you want to play you in the movie about your life?
What book did you read that changed your life the most?
If you could see one movie again for the first time, what would it be and why?
You have your own late-night talk show. Who do you invite as your first guest?
What would the title of your autobiography be?
What was your favorite band ten years ago?
If you could only listen to one song for the rest of your life, what would it be?
If you could only watch one movie for the rest of your life, what would it be?
What’s the greatest TV show ever made?
What’s the worst TV show ever made?
Do you watch any TV shows that you pretend you don’t watch when people ask?
What was your favorite movie as a kid and why?
Travel-Themed Icebreaker Questions
If I handed you a plane ticket right now to anywhere in the world, where would you go?
What was your favorite trip you went on?
Road trip or plane trip?
What is your favorite thing to do locally?
If you could either live where it only snows or the temperature never falls below 100 degrees, which would it be?
If you could live in any country, where would you live?
Snow, sand, or other?
You’re going sail around the world. What’s the name of your boat?
If you could have the power of teleportation right now, where would you go and why?
When’s the last time you went somewhere for the first time?
Outrageous Icebreaker Questions
What was the worst injury you ever had?
Tell me an embarrassing story about yourself.
When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
If you could add a word to the dictionary what would you add and what would it mean?
The zombie apocalypse is coming. Who are three people you want on your team?
If you could choose your age forever, what age would you choose and why?
Teleportation or flying?
If you could be any supernatural creature, what would you be and why?
If you were a vegetable, what vegetable would you be and why?
If you had to lose all your memories, which one would want to lose last?
What are your biggest phobias?
If you were left on a deserted island with either your worst enemy or no one, which would you choose? Why?
What would be the most surprising scientific discovery imaginable?
If you could add anyone to Mount Rushmore who would it be and why?
If someone offered you a million dollars to give up your smartphone forever, would you do it?
What’s your cellphone or computer wallpaper?
If you could have an unlimited supply of one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be any why?
If you were forced to participate in a flash dance, what song would you perform to and why?
What’s your favorite plant?
If you had to be transformed into one household item, what would it be and why?
If you could bring back any fashion trend what would it be?
If you could get rid of any current trend, what would it be and why?
What’s one frequently used word that you can’t stand?
What was the first thing you thought about when you woke up this morning?
If you were a fridge, what item would you hate to hold? What item would you love to hold?
If you had to eat a crayon, what color would you choose? Why?
Would you show everyone in this meeting your browser history?
What’s the most embarrassing thing you ever accidentally messaged to somebody?
Have you ever pretended you didn’t see somebody to avoid talking to them?
Food-Related Icebreaker Questions
What is your favorite type of cuisine?
What weird food combinations do you really enjoy?
If you had to eat one meal every day for the rest of your life what would it be and why?
What’s the weirdest food you’ve ever eaten?
How do you like your eggs?
If you had to give up one food forever, what would it be?
What’s something you simply could never eat?
Unique Icebreaker Questions
What is something you think is totally overrated?
What’s one piece of advice you wish you’d gotten sooner?
What’s your best scary story?
If you had 25 hours each day, how would you use your extra time?
If you were a wrestler what would be your entrance theme song?
If you were a superhero what would your name be?
If you were a superhero what would your superpower be and why?
What’s the best piece of advice you have ever been given?
What’s the best advice you’ve ever given?
If you could be guaranteed one thing in life (besides money), what would it be?
If you could be the funniest or smartest person in the room, which would you choose?
If extraterrestrials landed on earth and offered to take you with them, would you go?
If extraterrestrials landed on earth, who would you recommend as their first point of contact and why?
If you could go to Mars, would you? Why or why not?
If you were stranded on a desert island, what three items would you want to have with you?
If you could be the world’s best athlete in any sport, which one would it be any why?
How would you describe your sense of humor?
What’s your most-used emoji?
What emoji best describes you?
If you ran the world, what’s one thing you’d change?
What would be your campaign slogan if you were running for office?
History-Themed Icebreaker Questions
If you could meet any historical figure, who would you choose and why?
If you had a time machine, would go back in time or into the future?
What was the first thing you bought with your own money?
What was your first car?
If you could live in the 60s, 70s, 80s, or 90s, which would you choose and why?
If you could travel back in time to meet your ancestors or to the future to meet your descendants, which would you pick?
If you could go back in time and pay more attention in one class, what would it be?
Pop Culture-Themed Icebreaker Questions
Are you team Android or team Apple?
Who’s your favorite celebrity?
What book changed your worldview the most?
If you could only watch three movies for the rest of your life, what would they be?
What’s the most recent movie you’ve seen, both at home and in theaters? Would you recommend them?
What TV shows have you been watching lately?
What’s the most binge-able show you’ve ever watched?
What’s your guilty pleasure TV show?
What celebrity do you not like that everyone else loves?
If you could live in any TV show, what would it be?
What book do you bring along on airplanes?
What’s your go-to karaoke song?
What’s your favorite reality TV show?
Which celebrity was your childhood crush?
If you could be friends with any celebrity, who would it be?
If you had an entrance song play every time you entered a room, what would it be?
Which actor or actress do you think deserves an Oscar but doesn’t have one yet?
What album could you listen to over and over again and not get sick of?
What artists have you seen live? Which was the best?
Which musician, alive or dead, do you wish you could see perform?
Have you ever met anyone famous?
What’s your favorite podcast right now?
What’s your favorite animated movie?
Which celebrity has your favorite social media presence?
Who’s your favorite superhero?
What’s the scariest movie you’ve ever seen? Funniest? Saddest?
If you could have lunch with any public figure, dead or alive, who would it be?
What’s your guilty-pleasure song?
What’s your favorite social media platform?
What recent social media trend makes you cringe?
Do you like reality tv shows?
Do you listen to the news?
Spotify or Apple Music?
What was your favorite cartoon show growing up?
Who was the best batman?
Could Jack have fit on the door with Rose in the Titanic?
What’s your favorite Disney movie?
Blue and black dress, or white and gold?
Would You Rather Icebreaker Questions
Would you rather have the ability to see 10 minutes into the future or 150 years into the future?
Would you rather be able to swim underwater limitlessly or fly?
Would you rather travel to a beach destination or ski resort?
Would you rather go deep-sea diving or bungee jumping?
Would you rather for your birthday, receive cash or gifts?
Would you rather travel to space or travel to the past?
Would you rather smell with your hands or talk with your feet?
Would you rather go to a house party or a bar?
Would you rather be too hot or too cold?
Would you rather travel by train or travel by plane?
Would you rather trapped in an elevator or stuck on a suspension bridge?
Would you rather be a kid your entire life or be an adult?
Would you rather get a hand-written card or a phone call?
Would you rather hear holiday-themed music forever, or never heard it again?
Would you rather know the answer to every trivia question or the lyric to every song?
Would you rather go for a run or go for a hike?
Would you rather watch a TV show or watch YouTube?
Would you rather be on a survival reality show or dating show?
Would you rather be a detective or a scientist?
Would you rather go to the movie theaters or watch a movie from home?
Would you rather live in a remote destination or the heart of a metropolitan city?
Would you rather have telekinesis (the ability to move things with your mind) or telepathy (the ability to read minds)?
Would you rather be forced to sing along or dance to every single song you hear?
Would you rather be in jail for five years or be in a coma for a decade?
Would you rather be chronically under-dressed or overdressed?
Would you rather have everyone you know be able to read your thoughts or for everyone you know to have access to your Internet history?
Would you rather swim in a pool full of Nutella or a pool full of maple syrup?
Would you rather buy 10 things you don’t need every time you go shopping or always forget the one thing that you need when you go to the store?
Would you rather never be able to go out during the day or never be able to go out at night?
Would you rather always have B.O. and not know it or always smell B.O. on everyone else?
Would you rather spend a week in the forest or a night in a real haunted house?
Would you rather have a pause or a rewind button in your life?
Would you rather always have a full phone battery or a full gas tank?
Would you rather get a paper cut every time you turn a page or bite your tongue every time you eat?
Would you rather be able to take back anything you say or hear any conversation that is about you?
Would you rather have to wear every shirt inside out or every pair of pants backward?
Would you rather travel the world for free for a year or have $50,000 to spend however you please?
Would you rather be in a zombie apocalypse or a robot apocalypse?
Would you rather give up your cellphone for a month or bathing for a month?
Would you rather lose the ability to read or lose the ability to speak?
Would you rather be always stuck in traffic but find a perfect parking spot or never hit traffic but always take forever to park?
Would you rather have to wear sweatpants everywhere for the rest of your life or never wear sweatpants again?
Would you rather detect every lie you hear or get away with every lie you tell?
Would you rather listen to your least favorite song on a loop for a year or never listen to any music at all for a year?
Would you rather win the lottery but have to spend it all in one day or triple your current salary forever?
If you had to be transformed into one household item, what would it be and why?
Would you rather be able to run at 100 miles per hour or fly at 10 miles per hour?
Would you rather live without heat and AC or live without social media?
Hobby-Themed Icebreaker Questions
If you could instantly learn a new talent, what would it be?
Do you play video games?
What’s your favorite hobby right now? What’s a hobby you’ve always wanted to take up?
Can you play any instruments? If not, what do you wish you could play?
What is your favorite thing to do by yourself?
What is your favorite sport or physical activity?
What crazy activities do you dream of trying someday?
What is your idea of fun?
What two things do you consider yourself to be very good at?
What two things do you consider yourself to be very bad at?
If money and time were no object, what would you be doing right now?
What is something you hate doing? Why?
What is something you love doing? Why
Do you have any hidden talents? What can you do?
What was one new experience you tried that was completely unknown or uncomfortable to you at the time you tried it?
Debatable Icebreaker Questions
Is soap clean or dirty?
Is a hotdog a sandwich?
Why do people say “slept like a baby” when babies wake up all the time in the middle of the night
If a turtle doesn’t have a shell, is it homeless or naked?
Is water wet?
Do you eat rice with a spoon or a fork?
Is a thumb a finger?
Is cereal a soup?
Should pineapple go on pizza?
Is GIF pronounced gift (with a silent “t”) or jif (like the peanut butter)?
Are noodles pasta?
Are tomatoes a fruit?
How many holes does a straw have?
Is cheesecake a cake or a pie?
Which letter is silent in the word “scent”, the “s” or the “c”?
Are bacon bits a seasoning?
Should you recline your seat on a flight?
If tomato is a fruit, is ketchup a jam?
How deep does a pan have to be before it is considered a pot?
Should toilet paper be hung over or under?
Is a fritter a donut?
What color are mirrors?
Why is it called quick sand if you sink slowly in it?
If you mix dirt and water, are you making water dirty or dirt wet?
If a tree falls in the woods and nothing is there to hear it, did it make a sound?
Does the person flying in the middle seat get both armrests?
Are dogs’ front limbs arms or legs?
Why do we say pair of paints, when it’s just one article of clothing?
Holiday-Themed Icebreaker Questions
Is Die Hard a Christmas movie?
If you had to choose only one holiday to celebrate each year, which would it be any whyu?
What’s your favorite holiday?
What’s your favorite childhood holiday tradition?
What’s your favorite holiday movie?
Who’s the toughest person you have to buy for during the holidays?
What’s your favorite—or least favorite—holiday song?
If someone gifted you a gift card to any store, where would you want it to be for?
If you could travel anywhere for a holiday, where would it be and why?
What’s the best gift you’ve ever given anyone? What’s the worst?
What do you do when you get a holiday gift you hate?
There you go, over 400+ icebreaker questions for you and your team (including the random generator questions above). Next time you and the team need to connect, get to know one another a tad better, or just share a laugh (or debate)– reference this complete list of icebreakers.
Yes, at Assembly, security is a top priority. Each quarter, we have ongoing security work that is everyone’s responsibility. While we maintain a strong security posture, it was important for us to prove to our customers that we do everything we claim to do. This led us to pursue a SOC 2 Type II report that would provide evidence of our compliance with industry gold-standard security practice.
What's the ROI for employee recognition?
There is study after study showing that employee recognition leads to increased engagement. This in return creates an environment where employees are happier and more motivated which increase productivity and reduces voluntary turnover significantly. In order to filled critical roles, companies tend to spend nearly twice the value of an annual salary. Assembly is an investment in your employees that supports your bottom line.
Does Assembly offer longer-term contracts?
Yes, we will offer contracts for companies with longer-term agreements to help larger customers have more certainty around future costs.
The minimum agreement term is a 12-month subscription.
Does Assembly offer onboarding support?
We do! Any new customer needing further support to get started with Assembly to ensure you're set up for success can request custom onboarding support. These one-time services start at $5,000. Improving your employee experience is about much more than just using our amazing software; it’s about transforming your business to create a workplace that people love. That’s much easier to do with the personal support and advice from our passionate people experts.
Is there a free version of Assembly?
Yes. We offer a completely free plan for up to 50 team members. This plan is intended for teams or organizations that are looking to get started with an employee engagement tool. Keep in mind, this plan is limited in features.
All customers can open an Assembly account for free and get started without a credit card. Then you can change plans as necessary.
How much do rewards cost?
At the time of redemption (when your employees exchange their points for a paid reward) you'll pay face value. If a reward is a $10 Amazon gift card, your cost will be $10. All paid rewards are billed for on a monthly basis.
The good news is that you don't have to pay for rewards upfront because we only charge you when points are redeemed, not when they're earned.
Does Assembly offer discounts?
We offer discounts or educational or charitable organizations. In order to secure a discount, you'll first need to book a demo with a customer support specialist.
For all other organizations, we are willing to consider longer-term agreements in exchange for discounts. To set up annual plans or longer, you will need to book a demo with a customer support specialist.
How do I cancel my plan if needed?
If you're on a month to month plan, you can go here and cancel anytime. If you're having concerns or need help setting up your account for success, you can always book a demo with a customer support specialist.
If you're on a longer-term custom plan, you'll need to reach out to your customer support specialist to cancel your account or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
What customizations are available?
Great question! You can customize your core values to match your organization's to boost and track alignment. You can change your currency from the 🏆 emoji (our default) to any emoji of your choice. You can swap our logo for your own. You can also set up company culture rewards such as, "Lunch with the CEO," "Buy a book on us," and so much more!
Who can give or receive recognition?
While we recommend a peer to peer set up where anyone in your organization can give or receive recognition, you can set up Assembly however you want. If you need to limit the people who can give or receive recognition, that's perfectly fine and can be done from your Admin, here.
What integrations are available?
Assembly connects to the tools your employees use every day to offer an easy, seamless experience with minimal change management.
Assembly has integrations with HCM/HRIS systems like ADP, Google, Office 365, and Slack. We also integrate with communication tools like Slack and Teams so you and your employees can access Assembly wherever they work now.
What's your average adoption rate?
That depends on the company's permissions set up. That said, over 90% of the employees on Assembly's platform are recognized on a monthly basis. That means nearly every employee across all of our customers are receiving regular recognition from their peers, managers, or leadership. We're extremely proud of this.
Must rewards be set up to use Assembly?
They are not required. You can use Assembly without having rewards set up. However, we don't recommend it if you intend to have a high adoption and usage rate. You can always keep the costs down by offering internal culture rewards that are fulfilled by you internally.
Are points required to use Assembly?
No, you can remove allowances from anyone or everyone. It's up to you but we do recommend using points whether they're worth a real dollar value or not. Companies that use points have a much higher engagement rate even if those points don't exchange for real dollars.